- fidelity, commitment, loyalty.. its the beginning and end of the world for me! and the strange part is that inspite of my acceptance that i over-emphasize the importance of "commitment", i can't bring myself down from there. Ask me what fidelity really means, i wouldn't know what to say. I had many thoeries, (here i'm purely on a love relationship) the predominant one has been that a person bringing some third into the same space of physical intimacy is performing a breach of loyalty, and then at some point it seemed that a person allowing a distraction, even encouraging it was unacceptable, and sometimes loyalty is put up against the most "unpassable" test of all.. if one enjoys attention from an "outsider", it is disloyalty, bad bad disloyalty.. Lately i've been thinking, i have seen all of the above, i have seen blatant cheating, secret affairs, virtual intimacy.. but none has felt quite right, when made anonymous with love.. this concept of loyalty feels like a load.. love is light.. where do these really even align..? have i always over rated loyalty? can i completely separate love from fidelity?
- acceptance.. i remain a firm believer of a thought that the biggest gift you can give someone is acceptance of the way they are.. in this spirit i accept things that are 'wrong' (don't get me started on wrong, i am not clear :p) i have chosen to love n live with things that have been wrong and hurtful.. all for the upliftment of the perennail glow of acceptance and appreciation.. i am coming to see the relevance of judgement, in my list of things to do, i have to install a filter, to accept the stuff that really is worth it.. easier said than done.. its like revamping my whole spirit, but i see how much it is required..
more later....
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Well dimagee keeda, what do I say...fidelity is defined by us humans, the society we live in - conditioning of the mind, ain't it? How very natural and possible is it to stick to one partner without restrain? Do take a look at this blog post: 'Is man meant to me monogamous?':http://chitchatqueen.blogspot.com/2008/04/is-man-meant-to-be-monogamous.html
Secret affairs, virtual intimacy - probably provide a certain thrill and adrenalin rush, can't wonder why else one would want to indulge in such stuff or could it be: a very image conscious man/woman? :) :P
It's a phase that will pass, and is all in the mind for as long as you know what you are getting into and what to expect with a periodic reality check. If one thinks one can't handle it, you better stay off it.
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